Children cannot be asked to do things that are beyond their evolutionary reach, depending on their age, a series of things or others must be required of them in order to teach responsibility. But beware, when we say ‘demand’, we are not referring to the fact that children must blindly obey everything that adults ask of them. Not much less. Responsibility must come from the heart of children, and therefore, it is something that must begin to work from when they are very young.
Children at this age are very competent in handling various responsibilities. Little by little, they are developing a sense of integrity to carry out domestic and community tasks. It is important to remember that children often do not have much internal motivation to be responsible, so they will likely need occasional reminders to get into the habit. In this stage of 3 to 8 years, it is important not to overload children with a lot of tasks, and it is better to perform a smaller number of tasks and thus make sure that they are done and that they feel satisfied for a job well done.
Teach those first things first
If your child wants to play before doing homework or homework, then you need to reinforce this basic rule. You should remind them that before playing or doing any leisure activity, they should finish their homework, finish eating or finish doing a household chore. To say this to your child, you should be kind and tell him that although it is normal for him to want to have fun first, first things come first and then that reward he is waiting for will come.
Do homework a game
Children enjoy playing more, and when they feel that what they have to do is an obligation, they become demotivated too quickly. We all like homework best when it’s fun, so make homework more fun. If, for example, you have to clean your bedroom, you can have a competition to see who finishes first, put on music to do it dancing, etc.
Without scolding much better
It’s hard to stay calm when your child repeatedly fails at what you hope he or she will do well. But scolding him too much or punishing him rarely works – at least in the long run – and besides, they won’t teach him self-discipline. Instead, it is better to put a touch of humour in things.
Instead of scolding your child because something did not go well, help him improve it with a smile. Or if, for example, if your child accidentally dropped a bowl of cereal on the ground, what’s the use of getting angry? Teach him to clean it, to look for possible solutions and also to be able to accept his responsibilities.
Change the signs
One of the most frustrating aspects of parenting is having to repeat the same thing over and over again. It is necessary to change this way of acting and tell the children what to do. For example, if you are tired of telling him to hang the jacket on the hanger and he ignores it, when he comes from the street tell him to go outside again and when he comes in, hang the jacket on the hanger. When he does, praise him and repeat this action until he has the habit. It is not as important to say things a thousand times as to teach them the habit.